Do you feel like other people are judging you? I used to worry about other people's opinions's or judgement of me. I got my feelings hurt when I found out what others thought, then I found that I was living a life of judging!!! I was doing the same thing to others that they were doing to me!! The definition of Judging according to Dictionary.com is: to form a judgement or opinion of: decide upon critically ...
Well, I don't know about you, but I did not like it when someone very dear to my heart pointed this out to me!!!! Just noticing someone's faults and forming a negative opinion of that person is judging them....especially when we give it voice, it really can hurt that person, whether they hear it or not!!!! When I realized how horrible of a person I was for judging everyone for every little wrong thing in their lives I was horrified because I considered myself to basically be a "nice" person..... But I know now that it is not my job to notice anything negative about anyone. I know there are a few exceptions....for example if someone is hurting my family or causing trouble where I have authority, I must assess a situation and take care of business. That is not what I am talking about here...
I realized that every time I judged someone else I was opening a door for others to judge me!! By putting negative thoughts in my mind and voicing them to others, I was creating an atmosphere of negativity that came back to bite me on the butt!!!!
In order to become that "nice" person I really wanted to be, I had to learn a lesson: look at people differently!!! BUT HOW? I realized that every person was created by God in His persona for a purpose...so even though life may have molded them to look different, somewhere deep inside is still that person who they were created to be!! So now I ask God to give me His eyes to see every person. (sometimes I forget, but I try to make it a practice) I ask Him to show me their genius!! It is amazing what emotion comes over me as I see people for who they really are than through the eyes of negativity!!! So what, if they didn't take a bath or their clothes don't match or they use bad words or they don't take care of themselves or basically that they are different than me.....that is none of my business!!! My business is to love you and everyone else!!! This lifestyle is soooooo much fun, it is like digging up treasure in people!!! I am not perfect at it, but it is my life's goal to find the treasure in everyone I meet and hopefully God will choose me to help that person see who they really are!!!!!
Having a booth at the fair is a good place to practice loving people!! So I am practicing this week with lots of people who are different than me!!
Bottom line: if you feel judged, you should probably take a hard look at your thinking and words about other people. Are you making their life your business, if so, you probably are inviting people to be negative about you!!!! I challenge you to stop this horrible cycle and ask God to help you love people today!! I believe you will find that what others think of you won't hurt so bad because you will realize that they have just not discovered how to dig up treasure yet, but maybe when you change, they will follow you because they are obviously already watching you!!!!
Love ya and Have a great day,
SoniaRai
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