Do you find yourself getting offended or hurt all the time when people do and say things to you that just bug the crap out of you?
This has been a huge problem for me, but I have been fighting for peace in this area for a long time. Even though I still have to pay attention to my thoughts, I have discovered a few tricks that help me to get past the head drama and remain peaceful.
In Tuesday's post we discussed whose problem it is when someone wrongs you. It is only your problem if you accept it, but sometimes that is hard to do, especially when your mind is going crazy with pain.....
I have figured out that if you take a few steps immediately you won't have to suffer this mind drama.
1. Forgive that person
2. Put your hand on your heart and receive emotional healing
3. Release that person verbally to deal with their own problem
4. Verbally don't accept anything negative
Here is today's vital step:
5. Wait....Be Still!!! Make your mind stop thinking and listen to God......I have found that within ten minutes, most of the time, explanations start pouring in my head. Reasons why that person said what they said or did what they did.
Nine times out of ten, their problems don't have anything to do with me. Thinking that they do is borderline arrogant or at least immature. People in life have personal issues and problems they are dealing with. You can not see what is going on in people's heads. You do not know what kind of pain they are going through.
Sometimes people have had childhood drama that plays in their head, tormenting them. People get tormented with fear, cravings and a whole lot of other terrifying thoughts. A lot of times, when people are rude, they are just coping with their own mess and you just got in the way. I encourage you, to be a loving person and follow the above steps for your own sanity, but then;
Here is Step #6:
Bless that person....pray for them, figure out a way to love them in their own style. There is a book about the 5 Love Languages that is fascinating. Here is an Amazon Link to books for further research on how to love someone the way that they need it the most, in their own style.
The above steps have worked for me, I encourage you to find what works for you and eliminate the drama in your head.....Living with a peaceful mind takes time and practice, just like every other good change in our lives...but if you want to change bad enough you can, with God's help.
I love you and hope the best for you,
SoniaRai
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